Life can be challenging. For so many parents, a shower is the least of your worries.
A daily shower used to be a no-brainer for me.
Growing up as a teenager in the 80’s, the bigger the hair, the better! It was all about hot rollers and Aqua Net™.
My hair was crispy, and that was just the way I liked it.
Back then, there was no way my hairstyle on Monday was going to survive until Tuesday. My hair had to be washed every day to achieve the kind of greatness a shellac of Aqua Net could provide.
It was a lather, rinse, and repeat kind of decade.
I had the luxury of showering every day.
I didn’t have any other responsibilities besides school, and a part-time job on Saturday. I did whatever I needed to do when I needed to do it. Vanity is what drove my morning routine and I would rather die than go to school having not showered…and if I did, I felt like everyone knew it.
Fast forward to the days of college and my time became a tad more crunched. I still had no responsibilities other than school and myself. I was still sleeping through the night and showering every day.
Then came medical school. At that point I still didn’t have kids, so If I didn’t sleep through the night it was by choice. Showers still happened every day, except for the occasional weekend.
Once I started my Ob/Gyn residency, skipping showers became the norm for me. Sleep was prioritized just below continuing to live and eating. Showering happened at odd hours of the day and night, but I was able to work them in at least every 36 hours. Plus, I wore pajamas to work so I didn’t have to think about a wardrobe for 4 years.
Then I joined the chronically sleep deprived club when I started having kids. I now valued sleep just below life itself.
At this stage in my life, eating breakfast happened at noon. I was lucky if I had lunch by 4pm and dinner at 10pm.
There was a dramatic shift in my new norm.
My beauty standards were lowered. Since I was so tired and so unkept, sex was now last on my list on the hierarchy of needs.
With each addition to our family, I grew a little savvier in my bag of tricks to keep it together. With each new little one, it was a reminder of how precious and valuable sleep can be.
But little tricks for “keeping it together” are often no match for what life can throw at you.
When my fourth child was born, she had some troubles we were not expecting and she went to heaven when she was just 2 days old.
My heart was shattered and I knew I would never be the same again.
I wanted to crawl into her little handmade wooden box and go with her.
I cursed the light of day and it hurt to breathe.
It still does sometimes. In the midst of grief, I still had three other children to care for.
It was then that I really began to understand what trying to “keep it all together” really meant.
There were days all I did was breathe in and out.
It was all I could do to keep it together within my own 4 walls. When others felt I should be moving on and “getting better,” I became concerned for myself and pushed myself to live.
I know this sounds extreme, but I pushed my hygiene habits to the limit that first year after losing my infant daughter.
I had a lot of people fooled. I looked good enough and my pits didn’t stink. I was able to really understand what it means to “need more time” in my day. So trust me when I tell you, I have been in the trenches.
Moms are making it happen! We can grow a human in our body, feed the child for a year, manage grocery lists, dance and music lesson schedules, school projects meant for parents to complete the night before the due date at home, meals, and oh, the cleaning and laundry!
It comes at a price and most often it is you.
There are a lot of things that go unseen.
Moms sleep less, sacrifice more, bathe less, shave less, have sex less from time to time. This is a balance we are all seeking.
I don’t know about you, but for me, sleep was so important that I wished for it for Christmas and my birthday.
I want to kiss the hairdresser that finally said we shouldn’t be washing our hair every day. I love you!
She made it all about “preserving your color” and “not damaging your ends.” For me, the fact that she made it OK to not wash your hair every day was less about how my hair looked. It allowed me to get a few more minutes of sleep in the morning, grab a much needed cup of coffee, lay in bed longer with my husband, or watch Ellen on DVR.
She gave me back a few minutes of “me time.”
I now do “mom math” every day, and I bet many of you Wonder Women do too!
When I take the time to shower, I like to shave, floss, scrub up, lotion up my legs, give my hair a great blow out and Lume.
As I am doing this, I am thinking, “Now I won’t have to do this tomorrow for sure, and maybe even the next day (if this blowout holds up)!” I mean, if you wake up and your hair still looks amazing, do not mess that up by showering!
I have more important things to do!
I am not implying that you never shower, but for those times when showering is a luxury, Lume’s got you covered. It makes it a little easier to pull it all off.
If you wish to live my Lume lifestyle, you will find that you lose the inhibitions you once had in your pre-Lume days!
Lume has a way of resetting your time clock.
What would you do with an extra 30 minutes a couple times a week?
Did you Lume today?